wit and wisdom

I am a headline reader and in the newspaper a couple weeks ago, there was a long article which I haven’t read, although the entire article is hanging in my kitchen.  The title captured my eye.

It says “Say what you mean, and say it mean”.

What I have been experiencing at my office is bullying in an office setting. Not physical bullying but with words that make you feel inferior to others on board.  

I think because I was nice to people, saying hello alot to alot of people that these other people who are not as nice, feel that their territory is being stepped on and then they in turn tell me I’m not pulling my weight, I’m not suited for my job, and so why am I here at all?

Constant negativity from certain people while I try and get my job done.

So, until yesterday I would feel inadequate and not want to go to work.  But yesterday I said, no more out loud but softly to myself and just repeated back to them that I felt my contributions mattered and that was all there was to it.  Of course I had to do it all day, but I wasn’t going to take their constant unpleasantness one more day.

So, I guess the moral of the story is, if you are new to a job, within a year or so, just don’t be too nice, the ikky people get all bent out of shape, thinking others like  you better than them.  So, what you see is them being mean to you and keep on being mean.  It’s all about drama, and although I think it’s mostly a woman thing, I suppose men experience it too.

Stay strong,don’t be fresh when telling them you think you are doing a great job, say it nicely and firmly and walk away.  Note to self, as I sit and listen to the rif raff constantly, “he who talks first looses”, so hold your thoughts and smile to yourself , because the nice guy pretty much wins in the end.